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Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Speak-Up or Bear-It

I have been watching a lot of Hindi TV serials… some by choice, others accidentally.  They all had something in common… no I am not talking about the 'Saas-Bahu' Saga (For international readers, 'Saas' is Mother-in-Law and 'Bahu' is Daughter-in-Law. Indian TV drama series nowadays are badly hit by the concept of including the family riots, to the extent that ‘Saas-Bahu’ is a new genre all together in the Indian television industry!)

In serial A, a young boy wants to marry the girl he loves but his father is against the marriage. The father wants his son to get married to his friend’s daughter. This young guy is stuck because he doesn’t want to hurt his father’s feelings but cannot even live without the love of his life. Confused, he hardly says anything to anyone.

In serial B, a widow with her two kids is living with her in-laws, who are not very kind to her. She toils day in and day out to serve her in-laws. What she gets in return is harsh words. Inspite of it all, she does not question anyone.

In serial C, a poor girl, barely into her 20s, gets married to a very rich guy; only to find out after marriage that he is a psychopath. At one instance, he showers all his love and the very next moment he beats her up brutally. The girl does not complain for fear of hurting her poor parents.

And this is not confined to TV serials alone.
All of us, at some point or the other have decided to keep quiet! The reason could be to avoid quarrel, out of respect for others or probably because one is under obligation. What if it's none of the above? 


I sit back and wonder what should we call such people- people who decide to keep quiet against the bad? Innocent-Good-Souls OR Stupids-Ready-To-Bear-Anything?

I believe in rising up to the occasion. Views can be put forth without involving aggression and meanness. Keeping mum is like supporting false statements and accepting the blame for things you haven't done. If you won't talk for yourself... nobody else will! 

What is your take on this... Speaking-Up to your heart's content or Bearing-It for other's sake ?

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

The Year That Went By!

It's already 11 days into the New Year!! 

The reading on Time’s speedometer is always high. There are no brakes and no deceleration options. Unstoppable! Uncontrollable! Undefeatable! That is the power of Time. You either match Time’s speed or just sit on the sides and watch it run.

For me, year 2011 started off at a calm pace and ended like a hurricane (no harm done, thankfully)! There is no ‘ups and downs’ graph for last year. It was ‘ups’ all along. Just a switch in energy mode towards the end of the year. 

I was almost everywhere. Did all sorts of things in the last three months. Partied with friends, parted with the house that was my home for 1.5 years, came back to my home country to be with family, visited my parents after 3 years, took a long break from cooking (bliss!), waived at my sister as she set off to the new journey and now I am back to a fresh start.

Before we move forward to the NEWs of the New Year, I pause to collect the memories of 2011 and carry them forward to 2012.

·                JANUARY ~~  Came back to snow-covered Michigan after a fun-filled trip to California. Surprised        Sanket on his b’day with home-cooked meal for dinner.
·     FEBRUARY  ~~ Had awesome Arabic food with the ambience that perfectly matched the spirit of Valentine's Day.
·       MARCH  ~~  Celebrated Holi in a never-before style.

·   APRIL  ~~  Enjoyed the spring blooms. Made some changes to the interior of the house – new paintings and furniture.
·   MAY  ~~  Dedication for blogging grew. Went to Virginia for nephew’s Hair-shaving ceremony.
·  JULY   ~~  Visited Chicago with Mother-in-Law. A tiny garden was brought to life in the balcony.

·    JULY   ~~  My in-laws stayed with us for a week – Card games, food, Air Show, shopping, Jet Skiing and 11-month old nephew’s fun activities marked the week.
·   AUGUST   ~~  The ride of a life-time, Rip-Cord @Michigan Adventure. Kreative Korner turned One. Celebrated nephew’s first birthday (in Virginia). 
·    SEPTEMBER  ~~  Awesome New York trip!

·    OCTOBER  ~~  Month of firsts: Sold stuff on Craigslist; Found buyers for my paintings (leaves me happy every time I talk about it); Partied and parted with friends in MI; celebrated Diwali at Gwalior with MIL; My side of the family got together for the first time after our marriage.
·  NOVEMBER   ~~  Visited the city I grew up in - Allahabad. My Birthday. Second Wedding Anniversary (Second! God, really!!). Went to Kuwait to stay with parents for a month (it definitely was the shortest month ever!)
·    DECEMBER  ~~  Was back on the roads of Mumbai with my favorite gang of girls. New Year’s Eve in Hyderabad with my two sweethearts – husband & sister!

2011 was beautiful and I’m hoping for an even more exciting 2012!  Hope you all had a great start to the New Year as well! Wish you a wonderful year ahead filled with lots of love, fun and hours of blogging!

Happy New Year :)

P.S.-  My hops in the last 75 days:   Portage à Chicago à Abu Dhabi à Delhi à Gwalior à Lucknow à Gorakhpur à Kasia à Gorakhpur à Lucknow à Allahabad à Lucknow à Gwalior à Delhi à Sharjah à Kuwait à Mumbai à Hyderabad à Delhi à Gwalior à Delhi